Gratitude is often celebrated during the holiday season, but foster children may have complex feelings about thankfulness that are often overlooked. Their experiences can shape their perspectives on gratitude in nuanced ways.
Many foster kids struggle with feelings of abandonment and grief stemming from traumatic circumstances like neglect or loss. This disconnection from their birth families can make it difficult to feel grateful when their past is filled with pain. Instability is another challenge. Frequent moves between foster homes disrupt friendships and create a lack of belonging, making it hard for these children to feel secure. Without a stable environment, feeling thankful becomes a challenge, especially when they see others enjoying stability and support.
Moreover, foster children often lack control over their lives, as decisions about their living situations and daily routines are made for them. This lack of agency can turn gratitude into an expectation rather than a genuine feeling.
These factors don't mean foster kids are ungrateful; they may need time, healing, and supportive relationships to develop a true sense of gratitude. Understanding their unique journeys is essential, especially when gratitude is emphasized.
From our family to yours, we are thankful to you!
With love,
Jami & Deena
